Whose Opinions Mean More To You?


Not Making the Progress You Should, Who Can Motivate You to Get Moving Again?

Sometimes, everyone requires some inspiration. The concept of accomplishing something you’ve always wanted is often enough. However, getting started may be difficult for a locomotive to pull you out of your favorite chair.

In these cases, you usually seek out a coach or sage to get you moving again. After all, it is always difficult to get going when you have given up on yourself. A fresh perspective from an outside source may be just what you need. But how do you know if this person’s opinion means more to you than your own?

Here are some ways to know if you should take another person’s opinion over your own:

  • They have no ulterior motive. You know this person wants nothing from you other than to see you improve.
  • They have experience in what you’re trying to do. Listen to someone who has “been there, done that.”
  • They have your best interest at heart. This person is not trying to take advantage of you or put you down but wants to see you succeed.
  • They can provide helpful and constructive criticism. This person is not afraid to tell you the truth, even if it hurts.
  • You trust this person. This is probably the most important criterion of all. If you don’t trust the person, their opinion means nothing to you.

If you can say yes to all of the above, then whose opinion matters more to you? Yours or theirs? In most cases, it will be the latter. Why? Because they have your best interest at heart and want to see, you succeed.

Many reasons may inspire us, but just as many – if not more- can dissuade us from acting. The greatest driving force behind our customer and subscriber interactions is the understanding that there is no limitless time. So, whether you’re hesitant about achieving a specific objective because you’re concerned about running out of time, think about how much longer you have left before your deadline approaches.

In many cases, the only thing holding you back is the opinions of those around you. It can feel like other people’s thoughts and feelings are constantly bombarding us, so here are some more questions to help figure out how much influence they have on you.

Do You Wait for the Opinions of Others?

Are the people around you deciding what you should do or not do? 

Does your personal opinion carry any weight with them or even with you?

Do you sometimes find yourself waiting for the approval of others before taking action? 

Do you ever think about how strongly some people will respond to another person’s opinion, even in ridiculous situations where differing opinions should not be of any real importance?

 It’s not uncommon for die-hard fans of one sports team to become physical with fans of the opposing team simply because they are wearing a piece of clothing associated with the other side. Opinions obviously carry a lot of weight for people in this scenario!

As an entrepreneur or business person, you are the one who has to make all of the decisions for your company. This means that if something goes wrong, it is your responsibility. Therefore, you should be very careful about taking advice from others, as they may not have your best interests in mind.

It’s prudent to entertain the opinions of others. Our thoughts are that you shouldn’t value the opinions of others more than your own.

Again, by taking into account and evaluating the viewpoints of others, your knowledge of a problem is enhanced, or you may identify an error in your judgment, which is a good indication of development and maturation within your profession. Listening to the ideas of others might be beneficial.

Ultimately, you must keep your business moving forward to ensure proper growth. Focus on doing whatever it takes to make progress happen.

About The Author(s):

Sherman Hunter and SDK Hunter Consulting Group staff consultants provide global moneymaking opportunities and proprietary strategies that quickly accelerate business activity. You may familiarize yourself with these unique concepts by visiting the SDK Hunter Consulting Group blog located at: http://sdkhunter.com

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34 replies on “Whose Opinions Mean More To You?”

  1. This has helped me realize that I need to become a better listener, so I will try to improve in that area. I also am starting to realize that I must not depend heavily on the opinion of other people, and that I should focus more on my own opinion.

    1. We are glad that the article was helpful to you. Good luck in your continued progress.

  2. I found this post to be very helpful. All the steps listed are set up good and go in order. I also realized how important listening is and how big of an effect it has on others. I have looked at other sites and all these steps that are listed are the same, but alot easier to follow.

  3. Wow! Excellent article that pinpoints where external conflict transforms into internal conflict. You hit a lot of great points. When you worry too much about the opinions of others, your opinion of yourself is greatly damaged.

    1. Your thoughts on this topic are extremely well stated, Jane. You have a wonderful writing style that is very impressive. You should seriously consider writing as you have a “gift” for the written word. However, we suspect that you have several other “gifts” as well. Thank you for your comments.

  4. Lovely article. It just really shows that sometimes you can ask someone for advice, even when you are not performing at your best. It also shows that you need to listen and consider closely the other person’s opinion.

    1. es, by carefully reviewing the opinions of others, you provide yourself with a “rich” source of knowledge that will extend your own insights.

  5. For me my mom and family who motivate me but of course you have to have the courage to do your best.

  6. Great article. It just comes to show that sometimes it is alright to ask someone for advice, but at the same time you have to be open-minded and consider what that person or person has to say. Just listening to others is probably the best thing you can do.

  7. This post was like a wake-up call to me. It reminds me of how I am always putting other peoples opinions and feelings before my own. Sometimes I have to sit back and think to myself even though it seems selfish. Sometimes its best that I think about my own opinions and feelings because, at the end of the day, that is what is really important.

  8. This article reminds me that I too often concern myself with what others are doing or thinking rather than focusing on what I need to be doing and thinking.

  9. Motivation seems to be my downfall so this was a great read for me. Thank you.

  10. This is so real, all too many times we let the opinions of others hold us back and put far too little value on our own judgement, I’m glad you’re sharing that message, because more people really need to think about that.

    1. Yes, your statements are very true also. People are so ready to provide their personal opinions, especially if they are hurtful. That is unfortunate because technology since has made communication between people very easy. It is too bad that it is being used more for spreading negative dialogue than for providing positive assistance to each other.

  11. If I ever need advice or motivation, I can always call my dad and talk to him about anything. He is a smart person, and he helps to motivate me. It always helps to surround yourself with positive people. Anything positive can be motivating.

    1. That’s wonderful. You are fortunate to have him as a source of advice and motivation. In addition, he is also fortunate that you are willing to listen. Best of luck to both of you.

  12. Great! Motivation, in my person view is often found in individuals that give that “tough love” mentality.

    1. We have no doubt that a component of motivation can be realized via the use of “tough love”. After all, motivation, no matter how well founded it may be, is of no use if not applied and used. In many situations, the only way to make something happen is by the application of “tough love”. Thank you for your comments.

  13. Interesting post. I agree that there should be a balance between entertaining the opinions of others and making sure to take your own into account.

  14. I agree that so many people wait for others approval before making decisions and taking action. It is so important to have advisors that are trusted and experienced.

    1. Many people will take what they feel is the “easy way” to make a decision. There is a great amount of risk when your decisions are made for you by others. You will most likely release more than you will gain in the process.

  15. This has helped me realize that I need to become a better listener, so I will try to improve in that area. I also am starting to realize that I must not depend heavily on the opinion of other people, and that I should focus more on my own opinion.

  16. I gotta say, I find it hard to get past what others may think of me sometimes. It comes to me naturally and I’ve been sort of trying to train it out. This is solid advice!

    1. We understand your situation, Paul. Everybody naturally wants to be well thought of by others. That is a very natural desire. The key is not to have their opinions overrule your opinion of yourself. To allow that to happen means that you are releasing your life to others. That is too big of a price to pay, in our opinion.

  17. This article has given me some important insight. It has helped me to realize that I should be more careful to consider the opinions of those around me. I need to become a much better listener, first of all, so I will try to improve in that area. I also realize that I must be careful to not depend too heavily upon the opinion of others, but I certainly can become a better listener.

    1. Listening closely to what those around you are saying is a critical skill. Our article also emphasizes that you should always weigh the opinions of others carefully. Your ultimate decisions should be formed only after careful consideration of your personal opinions and those of others.

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